Where Is My Happiness?

Heya Meebsies,

This next post will be a little heavier than most. I just saw this video by Bubzbeauty and was inspired to write this. I hope you like it! ^_^

Where is my happiness?

It’s a strange but common question. Where is my happiness? I mean, come on universe. Isn’t it about time that you gave me some happiness? When is it my turn to be happy? When is it my turn to smile? I don’t know why, but these past few years I feel like I have been asking myself this question a lot. Why can’t I be happy?

Perhaps the real question we should be asking ourselves is; what does happiness look like? Can we say that we don’t have something or we can’t find something if we don’t even know what we are looking for to begin with? This questions leads to the next rant…

Do you know what I abhor? I abhor the cliché idea that happiness comes from another’s love for you. I abhor how when all your friends have boyfriends or girlfriends and you don’t; all of a sudden they pity you. The worst part is you eventually start to feel as if their pity is not misguided. Perhaps, there is truth in their pity. I am not ashamed to tell you guys this, but I have not had a relationship for 4 years now. It is hard to be alone sometimes. You look around you and all your good friends have someone in their lives. While you sit alone at a party; they are dancing and holding each other. For some reason, I always pictured happiness looking like that. I use to wonder, why can’t my life be like that?

Let me tell you a little secret. That is not happiness. Someone once told me, “We make our own happiness.” We ask ourselves, “Where is my happiness?” Strangely enough, it has always been with you. Everyone is given the potential for happiness. It is just what we choose to do with this potential that dictates if we will eventually find this fabled happiness. Maybe this is why so many people struggle to find happiness.

If we have the potential to be happy, why am I not happy? Let me tell you another little secret, love from someone else will never give you true happiness. Beauty will not give you happiness. Success will not give you happiness. Family will not give you happiness. I know what you’re thinking. What are you talking about Meebs? Of course things like my family’s love, my husband’s love, or even my stack of hundred’s love will give me happiness. I am here to tell you that this is not true at all. Do you know what will truly give you happiness? Your love.

I know I know. Now I just sound like a crazy person, but hear me out. Happiness comes from doing what YOU love and caring about those who YOU love. We all have this belief that we need to be loved in order to be happy. No. You have to learn to love in order to be happy. Happiness is as simple as loving whatever you want to love. If your husband loves you but you don’t love you husband, will you be happy? No one can give you happiness. A good example would be volunteering. If you think about it, you are not volunteering to get recognition for your good deeds. You are not expecting thanks. Yet for some reason your act of giving love and care for others through your time, brings you unimaginable happiness. You may think that it is strange. Through giving my love and receiving none, why do I feel this happiness? Curious…

Contrary to popular belief, happiness is something that is sought out and taken. Not given. Now don’t think that taking happiness for yourself is selfish. Don’t worry. The thing about happiness is; it is different for everyone. You are not taking someone else’s happiness by indulging in yours. As long as your happiness does not harm the others around you; you have all the right in the world to pursue your happiness.

If you want to be happy, do what you love. Love what you love. It doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t love you. Love yourself. I could sit here all day and tell you all the things I love about you, but it won’t even matter. Until you learn to love yourself, my words are nothing. Even as I sit here a single women typing up this post. I am extremely happy. Why? It’s because this is what I love. This is my happiness. Now go and unlock yours. ^-^

Thank you so much for reading. I hope you guys have a good night or morning. ^^

Thank you Bubzbeauty for inspiring me to realize my happiness. I wish you the best in your future endeavors. Also, CONGRATULATIONS!!! ^O^

Here is Bubzbeauty’s Happiness Video ^^